What about at Duke?
“More by far. I think part of it is that I feel like guys have zero clue what they’re doing when they give it, so it’s not even worth it. Also sometimes I’m a little self-conscious so it’s just easier to give it.” – Female, senior, single
“Absolutely enjoy. Mostly because I know the favor will be returned.” - Male, senior, single
Why is this happening?
“I feel obligated if I don’t want to have sex, but feel like they want to have sex. Obligatory consolation prize type deal.” - Female, senior, in a relationship
“Girls usually don’t bring a guy home and have the expectation that they’ll hook up. So definitely guys feel like they’re entitled to, at the very least, receiving oral sex. Also, I think girls are better at giving than guys. So it just feels better for them. Most girls I know agree that guys have no idea what they’re doing, so I feel like fewer girls ask for it. Also, I think hookups are generally centered around making the guy feel good. It’s an afterthought to pleasure the girl. Or some guys try and pleasure a girl just to pad their ego and feel good about themselves. Like hookups stop when the guy cums. That says it all.” – Female, senior, single